Mindi is a friend of mine here today to talk to us about Self Care is Healthcare: Making the Mind Shift, but going a little bit beyond the pedicures and manicures. All of that is great, but we need to go a little past that during this crazy time. Mindi and I, were just talking about how crazy it is right now and it has a lot to do with your mindset during this Pandemic time.
Self Care is Healthcare: Making the Mind Shift
So tell us a little about yourself Mindi….
Being a coach for female entrepreneurs, I help them quit their self limiting beliefs and lay down habits that don’t serve them, so they can get rid of anything that is keeping them from the fullness of what they were made to do. I believe that everything is already inside of us. As a Christian woman, God abides in you. And so everything that you need is inside you and it is about recognizing it and moving towards it. Here’s a way that we can recognize that is making the shift that self care is actually health care. My hope and prayer for you at the end of today is that you have shifted the thought of self care. Not completely away from manicures. That kind of stuff is great. Self care is non-negotiable because it literally helps you care for your health mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, relationally and financially.
Energy Draining Words
Words are very powerful, they carry a lot of energy. And when we say “I have to”, “I should”, “I must”, those are energy draining words. Instead, “I get to” has all kinds of life in it and it takes us back to why Jesus came for you, to have life and have it in abundance. Not “you must”, but you “get to”. So it’s a choice for you, right?
Just like, you being a woman of God is a choice. You choosing to look at self care as healthcare is a choice for you. So this mindset shift is why it’s so vital for you, because your brain is amazing. And it will distort and delete information that comes in, that does not match your beliefs and/or your identity. So if you get information that self care is different than a pedicure and a manicure, instead it’s about rest, hydration, nutrition, movement, spending time in nature, shutting off social media and limiting time. If you don’t believe it to be true for yourself and that you “get to” have that choice, your brain will distort and delete those things coming in and it will see it as a pedicure/manicure to be selfish.
The amazing part is that the moment you choose to believe that you are a worthy woman of God, that you are worthy of caring for yourself in this way, your brain will start to get on board with you. It will start to filter through the proof that self-care is health-care, because that is who you are starting to become and what you are starting to truly believe. This is how we make the mindset shift. This is how we make the habit shift by choosing those things and not feeling selfish about it. Because as moms, wives, caregivers, we think that taking time for myself is selfish. How can you be the best mom, wife, caregiver, woman, sister, friend, without making sure that you are having ample rest?
You are Powerful
Here’s the good news for all of you, YOU ARE POWERFUL. You have amazing habits that you do every single day. But, lots of them don’t serve you. You can create habits that go on autopilot. You can create the habit of gratitude on autopilot first thing in the morning, by saying five things that you’re grateful for. Then you start to create that habit. Again, you’re training your brain. God made us amazingly, your brain is so powerful and wants to work for you. It just does what it knows. When you’re feeding it Philippians 4:8….. whatever is good, whatever is lovely, whatever is pure…. when we are starting with that as a baseline, focusing on and giving our time and energy to those things, when we start our day that way….there’s your razz. Again, here’s the filter, you’re going to see those things more in your day.
Take Philippians 4:8 and apply it to anything. How you’re
- talking about yourself.
- thinking about a situation.
- showing up in something.
Phillippians 4:8- Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
What would you say to the Mom that says, I just don’t have time for self-care. Or the single moms that don’t have a significant other, what would you say to them? And how could they fit in self care?
The first thing I’m going to say, is going to sting. Brace yourself! The more you tell yourself, “I don’t have time”, “I can’t”, “I’m stressed out”, “I don’t get to do that”, “that’s for other people”…. The more you win that game, the more you literally bring that into your life, because our thoughts create our feelings and emotions which create our beliefs. If I tell myself I am a woman who does not have time for that, my actions then are the woman who doesn’t have time. I find ways to prove to myself I do not have time for this. My reality is I don’t have any freakin’ time.
There is No Such Thing as Failure
There is no such thing as failure. We either get the results we want, or the lesson we need. Failure is feedback. It’s data. It’s information that we get to take in and say….What gets to be different next time? How do I get to be different? What gets to change? What do I get to leave behind that didn’t serve me in this? What mindset do I get to adapt to move toward? There’s no failure! It’s all feedback for us and we learn so much more with the feedback. We don’t grow when we don’t “fail”, because then we become complacent and get super comfortable. We also, quit going to God constantly in prayer, we quit our practice of daily sacred time.
So when life hits a curveball like COVID-19 or is out of control, we still find peace, we still find joy, we still wake up with the intention of having the best day possible, and knowing that things could come along. BUT we know who we belong to, and the tools that He has equipped us with.
But here’s the thing, everything’s always out of your control my friends. We live in this illusion that we have control, but we do not. There’s one thing that you get to control, you and how you show up. What you say, what you do, what you think, that’s the only thing that truly is ever in your control. It’s the only thing that you can reasonably anticipate the outcome. This is how you’re going to show up.
Step Into what Your Limitlessness
You are going to have this opportunity to step into what I like to call your limitlessness. You’re not bound by chains, by limits, by rules and least by these disempowering beliefs and values that aren’t really yours. We get to recreate and rewrite our story. And the way you get to start that is with healthcare, self care, taking care of yourself mentally, physically and emotionally, right now.
Identify what you could do….. how you want to feel, who you want to show up as? What would that look like? Really visualizing yourself in all that splendor and all that glory, because that’s what God has for you. This is moving from glory to glory.
God did not give us a spirit of fear. Having courage doesn’t mean you’re not afraid, it just means you don’t live in fear. Courage is stepping out afraid and doing the good hard work and leaning into exactly where you’re meant to be….and not ignore God, like Elijah, like me sometimes. If I’m trying to ignore Him I have to start finding a way to see the things coming through my filter, all the messages and all the places. God starts telling me that I am worth more than that, that I am worthy to be treated right, that I am worthy to have love, that I am unconditionally loved, so therefore, I don’t need to stay in a place where that is not the truth. He keeps showing me the signs reminding me in Scripture, reminding me of the good people in my life, so when we’re open to being the onion and be peeling back, we get to create our own life.
When we’re looking for ways to shed the layers, when we’re looking for ways to grow into the fullness of God, when we’re looking for those ways we will see them, then continually grow through for Him!
Thank you Mindi for teaching us Self Care is Healthcare
If y’all want to get in touch with Mindi about any of her services CLICK HERE. I know she has done a great deal for me! In the meantime go to The PurposeFULL Woman Facebook Group and watch the full conversation between Mindi and I. Self Care is Healthcare!!