Side Note Before We Start: I would love for you to watch the video. You will get so much more value and little nuggets that I did not mention here. 🙂 3 Key Elements That Will Help You Overcome the Big Obstacles in Life + Video
The biggest reasons that I decided to become a voice online, whether it be here on this website, my Instagram feed or any social media for that matter, they all hold the same reasoning.
3 Key Elements That Will Help You Overcome the Big Obstacles in Life + Video
First things first, if you regularly read my blog, you know that I am all about fitness, nutrition, and feeling well. I believe that full health comes from a healthy mind, body, and spirit. We all face obstacles in our lives, and I want to tell you how I overcame a big obstacle in my life and lived to tell about it.
A little backstory: Before I met my husband almost 17 years ago, I went through a tragedy in my life. One that you can read about HERE, but today I want to tell you how I overcame it. It was one of those things that is a very taboo subject. It brought a lot of shame to myself and those around me. Honestly I went into a deep dark hole. When I met my husband, we both knew that there was a lot of work that needed to be done. Of course, him being the amazing guy that he is, he waited on me to get my mind right where I could totally receive the healing for it. And believe me, there were a lot of obstacles to hurdle!
Overcoming IS NOT forgetting what you have been through. You aren’t going to forget the things you have been through, or the tough situations that define who you are. I’ll be perfectly honest with you, this one particular incident in my life still defines who I am. I say this not as a victim, and not with a victim mentality. It doesn’t come from a place of negativity anymore, it comes from a place of encouragement and empowerment. It comes from a desire of wanting to serve and help others who have faced something similar.
Overcoming is basically getting rid of the shame that is attached to all of the garbage in your life. We all come into relationships, whether they are friendships or marriage, with baggage and we all have different types of baggage. It’s all in how we handle that baggage. If you are waiting to forget, that’s not reality…you are not going to forget.
The old saying “forgive and forget” means nothing to me. Yes, you can forgive, but it’s all in how you handle it after the forgiveness. It’s in the way that you tell your story from that point on. If you can let go of the shame and tell your story to help someone else, then you are starting the process of overcoming.
How Do We Do This?
1. Bless and Release
First and foremost, I like to call this “bless and release,” or “block and release” in Facebook and Instagram terminology. I have gotten really good at this, honestly.
I try to be as positive as I can. I am not the most positive person by nature and when you meet me, I can be a little shy and timid, and I can be somewhat of an introvert. And of course, I have faults just like everyone else does, but there is always another side to social media. When I am online giving positive tips, it’s usually because I am flipping my own stinkin’ thinkin’ on its rear. I try very hard to think positive, especially online. If people don’t line up with me, or are very negative, I tend to “bless or block and release”, and there is nothing wrong with that.
You are going to come in contact with negative people in your life. If you “bless and release” them, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be there for them later or that you can’t pray for them. It just means that in this season of your life, you need to nourish your soul and be positive. You have to realize that there are people in your life who are going to bring you down. Some of them don’t ever realize they are doing this. If you can’t handle the negativity, bless and release.
2. There is Something Bigger Than You
Secondly, know that something is bigger than you. If you have followed me for even five minutes, you know that my faith is a big part of who I am. I know that there is something bigger than me. I know that there is a calling for me to do something to help others. We all have that calling, and we all answer that calling in a different way. I know that there is something bigger, and you have to have faith in that.
Even as you are overcoming that obstacle, or trying to move past it, you have to tune in to yourself, and to your faith. While I was going through this process, I had to hold onto the fact that one day this story is going to help other people. I had to accept, I may not help them in hundreds, or thousands, or millions of people, but it would happen in the way it was meant to be. I wanted to use that story to inspire others.
I believe that we all have a story, we all have a testimony, that we can use to help someone. Most of the time when I really trust my faith and follow my calling to tell this story, I don’t know who it is reaching. I don’t know who it will help or if it will help anyone at all. But, I trust the fact that I went through something terrible, but I came out on the other side, I overcame, and I’m here to talk about it. I definitely feel that I am here to tell others to keep going and not to give up. Just by being yourself and telling your story, it will touch somebody. Believe in that higher calling and keep moving forward. Trust that there is a God that is supporting you every step of the way!
Lastly, support! You have to have support. You seriously need supportive, like-minded people who are going to kick you in the butt and tell you that you are out of line. You need friends and family who can help you identify the stinkin’ thinkin’ and help you through those rough days.
Your support is not going to be like mine. Our support systems will be totally different. Find that person or people you see the face of Jesus in. Find it in a parent, a best friend, a husband, whoever it is, find that person. Find the person who will help pull you out of that hole. You will have times when you wan’t to sink back into that awful place, and you need that person to support you and keep you above water.
I don’t know if any of you can relate to being so ashamed of something that has happened in your life. It’s a horrible, deep, dark place to be. It is anxiety driven and depressing. Find the person who will pull you up and tell you that you can do this.
If i hadn’t had those people in my life I wouldn’t be here today. If you don’t have someone in your life that you feel that you can turn to, reach out to me. I am there…this is what I do. I would love to support and help you. I know what you are going through and I am here for you.
So What Is Next?
The reason I wanted to share this is because my whole platform is about overcoming. Anyone and everyone can overcome what has happened in their life. There is nothing too big, too sinful, or too much that you can’t pull out of.
Overcoming is not simple, it is not going to happen overnight. But, every single day that you push through is another day behind you.
Again, overcoming is not about taking away the feelings of something that you have been through. Let yourself feel the emotions, feel the sadness, feel the happiness, deal with how you feel, and pull through.
Guys seriously, if I can do this, you can do this. I’m nobody special, to even be telling you this, except for the fact that I want to help you overcome no matter what the obstacle is. Ready to start the process today? You are amazing and you are worthy my dear! Overcome the Big Obstacles, my friends!
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